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NonLinear Accomplishments

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I was listening to Bentinho Massaro on following your bliss. It is like following a breadcrumb trail. This bread crumb trail of bliss is the way that you can experience the end result success now, instead of going through the normal linear, traditional step-by-step trail of hard work for decades to have a desired result in the future sometime, maybe.

 

The masses only know of the normal linear hard work and toil way but that isn’t the only way. The other way that feels like success from the beginning to the end is the nonlinear way of following your breadcrumbs of bliss as they appear. This is doing the thing that feels great and that you resonate with most with next. Then after that, you do what feels great and resonate the most with again.Then after that, you do what feels great and resonate the most with again, and so on.

 

Tuning into this process allows you to be helped by the power that sustains the universe and makes all things available now. It’s a serious shortcut to success.

 

As you are guided by your bliss, you will notice that the next thing to do and who you choose to be may be very different from what you have done, or who you have been. This is a good thing. And here’s a couple things to consider when coming up with former contracts and commitments that you have made that may feel constricting you instead of supporting you.

 

  1. It’s important to honor and respect other people’s free will. There is more than enough available in infinity for everyone to have what they want. Just keep your eyes on your own fries, continue to move forward to your next bliss and remember that you are just in charge of you. Other people’s happiness is not your business. It is always in your best interest to love others the best you can and to give the best you can, and your happiness and experience right now is your job, not others. And others happiness and experience is their job and not yours.
  2. When you come up to contracts and commitments you have made that do not seem to support you, it’s best to open up a dialog with the one whom you have committed. Lead with your vision and invite the other party to participate in this wonderful new world that you have created. Lead with describing your bliss and why it’s so important and joyful for you. You may be surprised to find that the contract and/or the relationship is happily changed as you have new converts that now get to be on the bliss bus with you for their own sake. This works way better than just telling someone they suck and you are going to fire them and to lose your number.
  3. If the other people don’t want to get on your bliss bus, you can also renegotiate whatever spoken or unspoken contract or commitment. Since we are only in charge of our own bliss, happiness, and evolution, it’s no problem for others to stay put or revert in growth as we continue to fine tune ourselves to higher and higher versions. It is truly a service to yourself and others to be independent of the opinion of any kind from another. This allows you to love and serve God and man no matter how the fickle crowd of spectators shows up. You are good. You can happily keep trucking down the way in the bliss bus doing the next thing.
  4. Sometimes the relationships and assignments you have had will not partake in your wonderful life you have and are not be ok with your lack of participation in your old life with fear and regret. They will not have you releasing all fear, regret, obligation, scarcity, and beliefs in lack. In those cases know you are always free to keep moving to the next thing, even when others are not willing to come. The reality is that you can never be separated from each other or from God or from abundance, but it can sure feel like it in the moment. So be brave and keep trusting your bliss. Like the course in miracles says,

“Nothing real can be threatened. Nothing unreal exists. Herein lies the peace of God.”

 

Here’s a great spot to pose a question for you.

“How do you know you have got what you wanted?”

 

Interesting question right. You may think, “Well, everyone knows what they want.” If so I disagree.

 

THOUGHT EXPERIMENT: Imagine you instantly have $100,000,000 in your bank account. Now you have no money problems. Now imagine you buy everything you’ve ever wanted. You have cars, houses, jewelry, whatever. Now imagine you are in the most famous crowds since you have the money to get in there. Now imagine you’ve traveled the world to your fulfillment. You’ve seen it all. Ok, now that that’s done, what now?

 

What you would do after you’ve done all that and have no limits is closer to what you really want. Most people never go this far. They get stuck on, “Uhhhh, Well if I could I’d like a nicer car”. The lack of specificity and limited possibility in this kind is very revealing. If that’s you PLEASE take some time and actually do that $100,000,000 thought experiment and get past all that stuff that little value so you can get quickly to the stuff that will bring much more fulfillment for you. So…what would you do?

 

Again, this is not what you really want, but it’s a good start. Whatever that is, START NOW! After I did this experiment I realize I would write down my beliefs and ideas that have brought me such freedom and bliss. So here I am feeling awesome like a super rich guy just doing my thing since I AM.

 

If you didn’t catch it, even your “thing” or “things” from the experiment are not what you really want. You’ve been patient so I’ll finally reveal what you really want. What you really, really, really want is not all the stuff. What you really, really, really want is to feel good.

 

How will you know that the car is the right car? You’ll feel good. But then when you start to think about it and realize there’s a newer better car, then you start to feel bad. You feel bad and then you are off to find the other thing that will hopefully make you feel better. How will you know when you are successful in life? Well, you will land the job, you reach the income level, you stock up the retirement account and then you will feel good. But if you get there and find that you still don’t feel good, well back to the races for you. You obviously need more to be able to finally shake feeling bad and get to feeling good.

 

If what we really want is to feel good, why would you ever wait?

 

If you could feel good now, what would you do differently and who would you be?

 

This now begs the question,

“How do I feel good now?”

This brings us right back to nonLinear accomplishment. Our feelings are really a guidance system that we come with. It’s how we are to navigate while we are here. Feelings are not meant to define us, they are meant to guide us to the next step as master creators, just like Papa Creator. We are a chip off the old block. If we are open to change and allowing source power to guide our feelings are God’s way of playing the “Hot and Cold” game with us. You know that game where there is something that is hidden, and there is a guide that knows where it is. The guide says “hotter” when you are getting closer to it, and “colder” when you are moving away. How fast can you find things that way? Real quick! That’s how fast it can be with us if we listen. There is an element of learning to tune ourselves and realigning ourselves along the way too. Just like your taste buds change as you grow older, what makes you feel good as you evolve will too. Don’t judge this though. Just dive in. Some may take longer than others, but getting that car moving is going to make whatever your timeline formerly was, much shorter to get to “happy” faster.

 

So how do I feel good now? You realize that you have already made it. All that you need for life, friendship, significance, fulfillment or contribution is all here now. It’s always here now. So look around you and notice how everything has been moving forward just fine while you were freaking out and were a stress ball about silly things that never happened. It all worked out. Everything will all work out. You made it. Feel good now. Smile.

 

So now what?

 

Now you do the next thing. Follow your bliss. You will become more in tune with this guidance as you practice. This is the way you go from an unknown author, artist, philosopher or whatever to a world sensation. This doesn’t work linearly. It only works when you can tap into our infinite resources that are not limited by the linear. This is a great way to have your “rags to riches” story, but whether you get to the riches doesn’t ever matter. Because you are happy now and then you keep doing the next thing. And if you can have fun in the process while you make the riches, then do that too.

 

 

Why self-talk works

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The world has NO meaning.
Strange thought I know, but let me explain why this is awesome news.
Like you probably, I do see meaning everywhere though. So where does the meaning come from? Why do I know it’s “Bad” when I get told “no”, or “I don’t like you”, etc?
I am the one that determines meaning. We are all meaning machines. We walk around judging and determining the meaning of every single meaningless circumstance that passes through our senses. We have elevated ourselves to god in our lives. More on why this is a problem in general, but if you’d like to be a better demi-god to yourself consider this:

My self-talk determines the meaning I assign to the meaningless situations that unfold in front of me.

Self-talk is not an incantation that will force the world to change. Self-talk is a way of aligning/changing my focus-thoughts-beliefs so that I can place a different meaning on the circumstances that do not change.

  • Like the classic story of the boy digging in the pile of manure. It’s either “I’m stuck in a pile of sh*t” or “There’s gotta be a pony here somewhere!”.
  • Or like the loan officer that get’s another “NO”. It’s either “I suck at this job” or “Sweet, that’s my 1st no’s down, 7 more to go till I get my big, ‘yes!’”
  • Or like the twin boys that grew up with an abusive alcoholic dad. One was a drunk and an abuser just like his dad. The other was a successful businessman and loving father. Both were asked how they turned out that way and the both said, “Well, my dad was a really bad alcoholic so…”

This is why Einstein said, “”I think the most important question facing humanity is, ‘Is the universe a friendly place?’” The reason, of course, is that if you believe it’s not, it will show up for you accordingly.
95% of what we think about is automatically circulated around and is not new. It’s the same old things that your mind takes and keeps spinning them without your conscious effort.
Here’s the self-fulfilling cycle:
These automatically circulated thoughts are what make beliefs.
Beliefs determine how you see the world.
How you see the world determines how you engage with it.
How you engage with it determines your results.
Your results confirm your beliefs.
And the self-fulfilling cycle continues.
So what!?

So look on the bright side. It really does Matter.
So assume the best in people. It’s really there, even if they didn’t intend it.
So give and give and love and love. It’s all coming back to you in ways you can’t imagine.

Every ‘bad’ situation can just as easily be a ‘good’ situation. Might as well call it ‘perfect’ and ‘good’ for you for where you are at that moment and keep on trucking to your goal!

 

Sales Tales

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Peter was terrified to make the call.

You’d never guess that he would be scared to make the call. He was a good looking guy in his 30s. He had a lot going for him. He was engaged to Jill. They had met in college and fell in love and decided to make a life together. He had a great sales job with huge up side if he just made a few sales. Peter had made big promises of taking care of her and their soon to be family. But yet, there he was, sitting in his sales office staring at the phone. Horrifed.

What was it that made so cold calling so horrible. The recipients where strangers. Why did it matter to him that he would possibly be rejected by a stranger? If he would have gotten a call from someone he had never heard of before that went something like, “Hey, Peter, I found your name online, and I don’t want you to ever call me. I don’t want you to be in my life in any way,” and then that stranger hang up, would that be a big deal? No. Peter would have thought it was strange, maybe amusing and go on with his day. He might even tell the story of the funny thing that happened to him that day. “Some stranger that I’ve never heard of asked me to never call them. Isn’t that crazy?” But there he was, making up a story about that same stranger, and how he can’t go on with life if that person he doesn’t know has the chance to say no to him. Now it was a big deal. That really was crazy.

Peter had a flash of insight. He remembered how rude his fiance, Jill was to him the first time he met her. They were at a party with some common friends. Peter saw her and said something stupid like, “Red wine huh. I like red wine too.” His horror of saying something so stupid to a pretty girl he wanted to impressed was only made worse when this same pretty girl just smirked, and without a word turned her back to him to talk to her group of friends. Peter thought for sure that this pretty stranger hated him with all her heart. He would have left the party and run for safety if he hadn’t been stuck there, because he got a ride with a friend that was not about to leave. Peter spent the next few forced to stay in the small quarters of the party which kept him in eyesight of this girl that had now become a forbidden goddess in his mind. He kept himself in agony from going over again and again in his mind what he should have said instead of the Dumb and Dumber line he mumbled.

Then the story he made up in his mind about his world crumbled. This same goddess came up to him as he sat on the sofa in the corner and spoke. “Sorry I was so weird. I felt so self-conscious I couldn’t say anything. I have had two glasses of that red wine. I think I have some liquid courage. Anyway, my friends say you’re really nice so I just wanted to say sorry for being weird.”And with that opening, Peter ran with it. Three years later, there they were engaged.

Peter was sure Jill hated him, but it was just her own fears he was feeling, not him at all. Just as Peter was only thinking about himself in that interaction, Jill was only thinking about herself too. When that happens both people miss each other. Peter was started to see a pattern. The more he paid attention the more he realized people were not thinking about him at all. They were too busy thinking about themselves. This was reliving though, because so much of Peter’s energy was worried about what people thought of him. If they didn’t think of him at all it freed him to pursue his goals and make good his promises, or in this case, make some cold calls.

Could cold calling be the same scenario as the first encounter with Jill that could end just as well? Peter thought yes. With the new found story in his mind that served him much better he picked up that phone and called the first number. He got hung up on. With a smirk he said out loud, “No problem, with a few glasses of wine you’ll be back.” And he picked up the phone and called again.

How faking confidence works

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Don’t resist how people tend to act. Resistance will just dig you deeper into a rut. But you can use people’s automatic behaviors to your advantage.

People tend to follow confidence, because they assume a confident person is competent. People tend to distrust timid people, because they assume the timid person is incompetent.

I’m in sales. I’ve seen it over and over again. The is a salesperson that is heads and shoulders above the rest of her peers in sales. When I’ve had the chance to get to know them, I find out that they are not better then the #2 guy, they just get people to say yes through their confident and direct asking for what they want and assurances they will deliver what their client wants. The really good sales people always find a way to deliver their promises! The bad ones with confidence usually don’t last in the business, because their deception eventually catches up.

There is certainly value in being prepared. And try this on for a week or so. Try acting confident. Try out being 100% sure that you will deliver (even if you are a smarty and can think of 100 ways that can go wrong, just try it out). Try out declaring that others can count on you, because you will do what ever it takes to help your people win! I think you’ll find you will have a lot more people following and saying yes to your requests.

Try it out. I will give you a 100% old-life back guarantee if it doesn’t work.

- Jevon

PerraLoans.com

Reverse Engineering Happiness/Success

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The quickest way to happiness is changing the words you use.

This is hard to imagine at first, but I’ve found it to be true. Out of the mouth comes the overflow of the heart, revealing what you truly believe. I think most can grasp that concept. If someone is consistently speaking hateful words you can deduce they are hurting and fearful inside. Here’s a secret. We can reverse engineer that same process. Reverse engineering the perfect life works by using the words first and letting your heart catch up.

The words we say are the easiest to dismiss as powerful since they are so easy to produce. It’s easy to say the words, “I love you” or say the words “I hate you”. The affect they have on the inside is profoundly different though. What are the words you use without thinking? Don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements talks about being impeccable with your words is the most important task. When we fill our conversation to ourself and others with lots of grace and understanding and love our life suddenly is full of grace and understanding and love. When we fill our conversation to ourself with judgment and ridicule and punishment our life becomes a self made hell.

I do real estate mortgages for work. Mortgages now a days are very difficult since there is a lot of moving parts and regulation. Recently a purchase loan was made very late from other people’s mistakes. The monetary penalty of being late was taken on by me though,  not the consumers that caused the delay. At that point I could have used a number of words to talk to myself and others. My words determine my experience in the moment. “This is not my fault. This was their mistake. They should have paid the penalty, not me. This/they/it is ridiculous. I am so frustrated/angry/depressed/stressed!” These words bring me a bad experience. I am committed to love my life and love others the best I can. From that commitment to myself I was able to use different words. “I can learn from this experience to set better expectations with my clients. The buyers are not the experts, I am. I am becoming a better lender every day from these perfect lessons. I am so thankful that this extra expense doesn’t hinder my way of life. I have an abundance. I am going to do what it takes to make this tricky deal a good experience for my employees and clients.” Even when I write those words I feel my mood shift to a much lighter state from the previous judgmental and negative state. It feels so much better. And since both sides can be equally as true, why not choose the one that feels the best?

Experiment with this. Look for the authentic ways to talk about your life in a positive way and watch your experience of your life lighten and become instantly more enjoyable. The more you enjoy your life and yourself the more enjoyable you will be to others. The more enjoyable you are to others, the more favor you will have in your world. The more favor you have, the easier you will get all you want. It starts with your words though. Easy.

 

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