In the thousands of hours of coaching over the years, I have found these 3 steps will help you keep the momentum and finish strong on your journey in your best life ever. They are simple, yet profound.
1. Recognize where and how you are doing good right now. Celebrate that.
2. Focus on your goals
3. Remind yourself of who you choose to be and then change your behavior in this moment so that you are acting like it.
Step One:
Recognize that you are winning and Celebrate!
It is in the state of exhilaration that challenges are overcome and new creation happens. To get exhilarated you just need to stop and recognize everything in your life that is great. I promise its there if you look hard enough.
So, take a deep breath in…. then out… and allow yourself to recognize that you are doing great.
You went to Trotter’s workshop. You hired a coach. You are doing the work. you have that list of be, do, have’s and your top five accomplishments. Tell yourself “great job, you are awesome and on your way!” and mean it.
Step Two:
Focus on your goals! You need to have your exact goal in mind when you wake up. You need to have your goal in mind when you go to sleep too. You need to have beliefs about yourself that help you do what it takes. Too many beliefs that we tell ourselves influence us to quit. If you think different thoughts about yourself you will act and feel differently.
In case you haven’t done much work on exactly what you want to do, or who you want to be, here is a helpful exercise to get clear.
Write out 30 characteristics that you want to BE, 30 things you want to DO, and 30 things you want to HAVE.
- BE’s. Think of all the people you admire. Real or fiction. Dead or alive. What are the characteristics that they possess that attract you? Brave, confident, loving, creative, perceptive, smart, persistent, hard working, revolutionary, etc… Write the characteristics ‘you would like to be’ down till you have 30 of them. You start to design your own beliefs by changing the “I would like to be” with “I am”. Instead of “I would like to be intentional”, now it is “I am intentional”. Instead of “I would like to be adventurous” say “I am adventurous”. Choose to be that in this moment! Declare it and then ask, “What would I do if I was adventurous and intentional in this moment?” And then do that. This is how you create yourself to be how you wish you were. 🙂 The more you remind yourself who you would like to be and act accordingly (even if you don’t feel like it!) the more natural it will become. Then one day, you get told, “I wish I was as adventurous as you, but that is just your personality, I can’t be like you.” Then you will laugh and know how far you’ve come.
- For your DO’s and HAVE’s. Go down each of them and write a 1, 5, or a 10 to the right of them. These are one, five and ten year goals. If you think it will take a year or less, put a one. Five or less, put a five. More then Five, put a ten. Then while BEING the woman in you have chosen, go after year one goals!
Step Three:
Remind yourself often that you are able and will accomplish your goal! Allow yourself to imagine the accomplishment of your dreams. Feel how good that will be. If you repeat this process when you get up and when you go to bed, this alone will change your life. I promise. The thing about it is that it’s too easy to do. Becuase it is easy to do, its also easy NOT to do. So, don’t get caught up on how simple this sounds. JUST DO IT! Again, I promise this will revolutionize your life.
This process is called belief design. The purpose of designing a belief is to support you and equip you to engage in your life so that you get what you want. You are creating new thought patterns that promote new actions that give you a better life then you have had in the past. It all starts with your thinking.
I wrote an article with this in mind. Use the link below to get to the post to read it and create your affirmation that will support you in your chosen path.
These things are easy to do and easy not to do. Remember all the ways you are doing great. Nothing and no one can stop you from having the life you want, save you. I am excited to be a part of you getting there. Feel free to contact me for the free consultation to see how Perra Consulting Group can support you to get you where you want to go.
